2- Catch the kids by being good
Have you ever thought about how many times you react negatively to your children on a given day? You may find yourself criticizing much more often than complimenting. What do you think of a boss who treated you with so much negative advice, even though it was well intentioned?
The most effective approach is to surprise children doing something right: “You made your bed without being asked – that’s great! Or “I was watching you play with your sister and you were very patient.” These statements will do more to encourage good long-term behavior than repeated reprimands.
Make sure you find something to rent each day. Be generous with the rewards – your love, hugs, and compliments can work wonders and are often reward enough. Soon you will find that you are “developing” more of the behavior that you would like to see.